Saturday, November 5, 2016

The Clocks

My mom and dad were the BEST ever!  Boyd and Donna Neider.   I can't say enough wonderful things about them.  They worked hard everyday for their six kids.  They wanted to make sure we had everything we needed to be happy and successful people.  They loved us unconditionally and we knew it.                                                                             

We were lucky and blessed to have such dedicated parents. One day not too long after Rich and I were married I stopped by Mom and Dad's for a visit.   They  were deep in discussion about the clock below.  At that time the clock was on a shelf near the kitchen. It is a beautiful clock that previously was in my grandparents (Bee and Leona Neider's home).  And before that the clock was in the home where Grandpa Bee grew up.  At some point his parents, John and Lillian Neider  gave the clock to him and he passed it along to Mom and Dad. 

Originally Grandpa wanted the clock passed down to the oldest son as he had done, but at some point changed his mind and said he now thought the clock should be given to the brother just younger than I.  They continued talking about the clock and what to do about the new situation.  Of course I asked, "Well, what about me?  I'm next in line after all".  After telling me my name was no longer Neider and that made my unqualified to receive the clock, they ask my opinion. They were quite astonished at my thinking that I would be in any kind of line.  Oh well.  I told them they should just wait until Grandma and Grandpa died and then give the clock to the first son.  They said that was no longer possible because Grandpa had spoken to son #2 about the clock.  Well, Mike did go to Grandma and Grandpa's 50th wedding anniversary party in California.  That's probably where the conversation took place.  


Well, I could tell my mom and dad felt very concerned about the turn of events with the clock, but before long the legacy clock was given to son #2, Mike.  Then unbeknownst to all of us, Mom and Dad  had been searching all over the West for similar clocks.  They purchased clocks from Idaho to California and yes, we now all have a kitchen clock of our own.  

Here is the beautiful clock Kenny and Margo have in their home in Idaho Falls, Idaho.

This is the clock in our home in Virginia -- even if my last name is no longer Neider.  Mom and Dad saw to it that this Crowley girl got a clock.  It's beautiful and I love it.  They drove it all the way to the East.

This is the clock in Mark and Renee's home in Pocatello, Idaho.

This clock was given to Julie.  Julie died in 2000 and the clock has hung in her kitchen area in Murray, Utah until her husband, Jack died in June of 2015.  I was in Utah for Jack's funeral and to help clean out some of the items in the house.  Here sat this beautiful clock.  None of the boys wanted the clock, so I brought it home.  The youngest two boys, Ross and Lewis may reconsider and I will have it for them if they ever want it.

This clock is in Darryl and Anna Marie's home in Granite, Utah.  He's the baby of the family.

The clocks are all unique, but similar.  They are a testament of love that our parents felt for all of their children and a legacy we will be able to pass down to our children.

However, this entire episode sparked my thinking.  Really are the brothers going to inherit all of the family heirlooms because their last name is Neider.  Of course I protested that idea many times.  Thinking:  we will see about that.

Many years later I had the opportunity to help my dad pack up the home for a move.  Mom and Dad had sold their home and their new home wasn't ready for a few months.  As I was packing everything for storage, I came on to this picture.  This isn't the framed copy I have.  The one I have is in an oval frame from the 1940s.  Mother called this her wedding picture, but it was really her senior prom picture.  This is just the most beautiful picture to me ever.

This was lots of years later than the clock incident by the way.   On the back of the framed picture had been written.  "This belongs to Mark Neider.

I said, "What's this, Dad?  It says this picture belongs to Mark."  Dad said something about taking it up with mom as he knew nothing about it so I called her immediately.  She was in St George, Utah recovering from surgery and couldn't help with the packing.  She told me Mark wanted the picture.  Really!  She had promised he picture to me.  So in my mind that meant she wanted him to have the picture.  I called him right up.  He still lived in Pocatello near Mom and Dad.  When I asked him about his desire for the picture, he asked me what picture?  Um Huh!  When I described it he said for me to take it.  It was fine with him.  I thanked him.  He is such a good brother giving the picture to his sister.  I took the picture straight to my suitcase.

I told him later it would always be his since his name was on the back and if he wanted to see it, he could come to the East where it would be hanging in my living room. Yes, I'm a stinker, but come on.  That picture had been promised to me by my mother who then forgot about the promise.  I noticed the next time I visited Mark's home he had two of the prized oval framed pictures.  Well, that's okay.  They were not promised to me.  True to form my mom made sure all of her children and grandchildren who wanted copies of this picture have a copy.
Come see your picture Mark!  I'm lonesome for you and Renee.

Yes, we rolled into the end of 2014

I'm so far behind -- okay two years behind, but had several posts unpublished.  So here are a couple of posts I'm adding the pictures to to get them into my journal.  Here's the end of 2014.  Please try to do better, Andrea.

We came home from the West after laying Mom to rest pretty tired and ready to catch up with everything going on in Virginia.    Here's what kept us pretty  busy!  Mostly our adorable grandkids.  They are just wonderfully amazing.

We had a fun date with Audrey before she started 1st grade.  We took her shopping and to I-Hop.  She really wanted ice cream for dessert, but needed a blanket from the car to be warm enough to eat that cold dessert!  She's adorable.  (now in 3rd grade)

               Wrapped up in a blanket with her Grandpa feeding her the very cold ice cream.

More tire swing

     The kids have a blast in the tire swing in the back yard.  Some of these pics are from June and some from the fall.



                                                  Nathan and Uncle Jeremy



                                     Grandpa Rich, Charlotte, Emery, Nathan and Jeremy

                                                               Emery, our CA girl
         These kids have such a fun time on the swing.  It's been great to enjoy!

Rich took this adorable picture of Andrew and Melanie's girls at Yowell Meadow Park.  They are just the cutest.  Jocelyn, Audrey and Harper.

Next we celebrated niece Jordan's wedding weekend with the Crowley Family.  This is Rich's brother, Ken with his wife Tricia and three daughters, Kara, Jordan and Shannon.  They got the girls and we got the boys.

We had a great family reunion at the wedding.  It was near Gettysburg and we were there for the weekend.
Standing:  Terry and Annette Berger (Rich's sister and our bro in law) Doug, (Rich's brother) Ken and Tricia
Seated:  Rich Andrea (me) Matthew,  our son, and Shane (Annette's son)

Fun visit from Mark and Renee
     My brother, Mark and his darling wife, Renee came to DC from Pocatello, Idaho for meetings and then stayed on with us for the next week.  We all wanted to go into permanent  fun and retirement.  We had such a great adventure visiting  important Civil War sites, laughing, and catching up on everything since our last visit.  Did I say we kept laughing our heads off.

 This is in Fredericksburg, VA and shows what is left of the stone where slaves were sold.  A very sobering and sad commentary of our country.  Now, it's really hard to believe the atrocities that happened during our history.

Celebrated Halloween
                                       Charlotte and Nathan

Celebrated Andrew's birthday - come on Andrew -- this is a celebration.
 Melanie made a delicious cake and we did celebrate Andrew.  Fun times.  That's Matthew in the hat, brother Mark and Melanie with her back to the picture.  Nathan, Charlotte and Audrey.

Mark and Renee flew home to Idaho a few days later and left us lonesome as could be.  We visited many Civil War sites as Mark is a Civil War expert.  He didn't have to look up any other the history and told us exactly what had happened everywhere we visited.  We were at Chancellorville, the Sunken Road, Graffiti House, Cedar Run Battle site, and more.

Thanksgiving - Very sad and lonely day
            The table was set, the turkey in the oven, the stuffing was curing, the pies were made and we were reading.  We always have Thanksgiving with the Maryland Crowleys (Rich's brother's family).  It was our turn to host and we were excited.  We always have a Crowley Family Amazing Race and it's so fun!!!  It was ready to go.   THEN... Nathan started throwing up.  Oh no!  We had five more little children coming to the feast.  So yes, we had to cancel.
     Andrew and family went to the lake to be with the rest of the Maryland Crowleys.  Rich, Matthew, Charlotte, sick little Nathan (bless his little heart) and I had our own very quiet feast without the rest of the family.  Shoot.  Plans are made to be changed -- right.  Andrew dropped off some rolls on the way to the lake and he really needed some of his mamma's stuffing so we traded.  It was a quiet celebration, but we still had a great day.

We made it to California after Thanksgiving to spend a couple of weeks with Jeremy, Shelly and family.  We don't get to see our California kids enough.  We celebrated Tanner's birthday, the kids all made gingerbread houses, and we got to see many basketball games.  Those Crowley boys are great little athletes.  We had a fun Christmas celebration with the Fresno family and exchanged Christmas gifts.  The kids were so cute and very excited.  I have very few

                         Here's Chase with his gingerbread house.  He loved this activity!!!!!!!!!!!!!
                                       Emery's gingerbread house
 We got to attend a fun concert with Emery.  Her class was singing on the Christmas program.  We got to meet her teacher too.

 Grandpa Rich reading to Chase.  They are the best buddies. Chase and Emery also love to listen to Grandpa Crowley's stories on the recorder as they go to sleep.  (The Magic Bunks)

An added bonus in Fresno was getting to meet a Neider cousin.  Our grandfathers are brothers who grew up in  Pocatello, Idaho, my home town.   This is Janeil and I think we look like we could be related.  I need to enjoy getting to know her better.  Her mother, Joy Neider is my dad's cousin, but just a few years old than I am.  I loved getting to meet her.

Okay, that's it for 2014.  Now if I can just get all of the 2015 posts in I will be happy and feel like I have accomplished something great.  Stay tuned.  I hope.